Handouts for multiples? Or is it time for tough love?

I wasn’t going to blog about this issue because quite frankly the amount of publicity this woman is getting is sickening. Clearly this woman is mentally ill or at the very least the most selfish woman on the face of the planet. So why is the media gobbling up interviews and tiny details about el psycho like its candy or a cute cat eating spaghetti? However…I decide to voice my thoughts and opinions on this now that it seems that most of America is on the same page as I in regards to the Nadya Suleman issue.

Well I did say MOST! Jhana Wallace seems to think that these babies need tons of freebies and presents galore. She is offended by another post here that perhaps it’s a good thing people are steering clear of this massive train wreck. A mere glance of the comments on BOTH letters show that many people do not feel the same way as Ms. Jhana does.


Let’s start at the beginning with the basic facts. Last month Nadya Suleman gave birth to 8 tiny babies. It wasn’t out of love or OPPIES; it was some quack of a doctor who implanted 6 embryos in a woman who already had SIX children!!! This woman was out of work at the time of “conception”, having her parents raise the other six kids in below poverty conditions, and seems to live off a small injury settlement/government aid for one of her children who is autistic. Clearly this woman was thinking what was best for her family when she decided to have 6 more kids (the two others were a result of the eggs splitting and creating twins which happens OFTEN with a fertility procedure like this). Or at least what was best for her…

Some people are sprouting off ridiculous ideas that we should all leave this poor woman alone and she has the right to have as many children as she wants. I am not sure what kind of thinking that is…but I laugh and cry at that train of thought. On what planet is it okay to bring children into this world when you have no means to take care of them? Love and desire does not put a roof over their heads or food in their stomachs. You can WANT things all you want but doesn’t mean you should have them. Personally I would love to have like…20 baby kittens! And I am sure I could buy all the kittens I want. The problem is I can’t afford medical care or food for 20 baby kittens on top of the two cats I already have. Not to mention I would have no time to work and take care of them all/give them love and attention. It would be SELFISH for me to own that many kittens. The same principal should apply to this crazy woman and her kids.

Of course these people who are sprouting leave this poor woman alone are also advocating giving this family freebies and tons of awesome stuff. Well….you can’t have both. We can either leave this psychopath alone or give her aid. But if you are going to get aid you better believe it is the public’s business to know your business now.

Not to mention this stupid woman did this on PURPOSE. She saw other reality shows about irresponsible people having tons of children and dollar signs popped up in front of her greedy face. I can’t say much about those two other shows since I do not support such crap. And believe me I watch a lot of reality crap on TV and I won’t touch those two shows with a 9 and half foot pole. Those people are not RAISING kids on their own either. Without their TV deals and handouts those people would be starving in the streets. These people are not to be copied or praised; they are to be pitted and CPS to visit their houses every single day.

What set me off to create this post was Jhana’s little rant about people not giving. If you want to have this many children…you better be able to pay for them. It is not the public’s job to pay for your wants and desires. If a company WANTS to give you a 1 year supply of diapers or a brand new minivan, that would be LOVELY of them. But in no way should this mother EXPECT such generous gifts. That is what they would be GIFTS! And most of these GIFTS are not given out of the kindness of CEO’s hearts. They do it to get great publicity…which I totally understand. All companies do this and it projects a positive image.

But right now…this situation is not positive at all. Most people think this woman is stupid and shouldn’t have custody of any of these kids. Now is not the time to be associating your name with such craziness. So I can’t blame these companies for waiting a little while or just giving the essentials for now. That and I would HOPE after the 1467th case of MOG I gave birth to so many babies at once..the American public is becoming bored with this trend and are moving on to something else. Yay you had kids…move on.

Oh and in case anyone hasn’t noticed…times are BAD(or so we are told every single day!)! People are losing their jobs, homes, and retirements. Times are not good. I know some of these companies are rolling dough, but others are not. I do not think it is fair that this woman gets 20k worth of free diapers while a single mom of three is getting her hours cut at BabiesRUs. Single mom of three is TRYING to provide for her family while Nadya Suleman isn’t doing ANYTHING! Everyone probably could use some charity right about now. But they aren’t going to demand it or be put off when the answer is NO. They are going to do what they have to do for their families. That is what real parents do.

People are saying THINK OF THE CHILDREN…and I am. After seeing the conditions of those 6 other kids…I do not want this woman to take care of these new 8. Giving her free crap and handing out book deals is not going to help these kids. She has a publicist! She has 8 tiny new babies and she runs out to get a publicist? Even of the publicity came to her…she could have said no thanks, I have too many other things on my mind! But no…this is what the woman wanted, what she was counting on the entire time. Making money off her awesome ability to push some babies out of her vagina.

Her parents did not sign up for caring for all these children. They can barely take care of the ones she had prior to these new lives. Of course they are going to help as most grandparents do…but it is not their responsibility. It is just going to wear these older folks down and drain whatever money they would have had for retirement. Funny how people just want to focus on CHILDREN but not the older people who will suffer too.

The main problem I have with Ms. Jhana’s argument or rant is the implying discrimination is going on with this case. Because if life isn’t going your way we can blame it on something out of your control, like your race or religion. If you don’t like what you hear it’s discrimination. If people tell you NO it must be discrimination! Ms Jhana says that the only reason these other freaks with huge families have deals and freebies are because they are married Christians (others have implied also because they are white). Well, I am not going to argue the fact that just because you claim to WORSHIP God doesn’t make you a Christian. Because that would be too easy.

Anyway, I don’t care if this lady was black, white, tan, purple, Jewish, Muslim, worships rocks, or is married. No one is discriminating based on those facts. Perhaps they are discriminating because she is stupid. But that’s about it. No one is pulling out of helping these people based on this lady’s religion or last name. Perhaps they are pulling back based on her marital status, but only because this idiot refuses to have a stable relationship with the father of her children. She seems to think she can raise these children on her own…which she can’t. I just can’t stand when people claim there is unequal treatment based on factors like religion and skin color.

Yes these babies are innocent little bystanders in this hot mess. And it would be nice if every child in this world was given lots of lovely stuff when they are born. But the fact is that doesn’t always happen. So while I am against giving this mother handouts and book deals, I am not against giving these babies help. But my form of help would be…to give them other parents. Parents who try forever to have babies of their own and can’t. People who can provide loving and stable homes without holding their hands out for a buck. Heck, I am even for several people taking handouts to take more than one children so they are not separated. Perhaps set up a condo complex where each family raises 2 kids each so all the kids can be raised together. But don’t give this woman anything. She only cares for herself and will use any deals to keep pushing out babies she can’t pay for and perhaps paying for more alleged plastic surgery.

But if no one helps these children it’s okay too. Well….not okay…It would be NICE if people helped, but it’s not MEAN if they don’t. People aren’t born deserving of anything. No one in this world owes you anything. If you continue in helping stupid, other stupids will catch on and try to do the same thing. It is best to nip it in the bud and stop the cash flow. Many of the older generations come from bigger families (my mother is one of five and my father is one of six) and they did not have hand outs. Mainly because every other family was just as huge so there were no handouts! You had kids and you took care of them. If you can’t, do the right thing for your children and find loving homes that can take care of them. Anything else is just child abuse and making the situation about YOU. Anyone can give birth…not everyone can be a parent. And Nadya Suleman is not a parent.

Brief final words on this subject: There was a news clip on this subject on Inside Edition tonight involving the doctor and there will be a news story on Dateline NBC. This has clearly needs to stop. Or at least educate people on this subject matter before they cut this woman a check.

I am ALL for helping these children. I just feel as if they should go seek that help in more stable home environments and measures should be taken so cases like this DO NOT HAPPEN AGAIN! We are populated enough without women giving birth to 14 kids (knowing the increased risk of birth defects…) that will be a drain on society for quite some time. Kid can be a blessing but it is delusional to think they are never burdens.